The people asked and I cannot refuse them

23 01 2008

I’ve been finding it hard to organize my thoughts when I consider posting, so eventually I just don’t, but I do want to keep this thing up.  I was reminded the other night by Megan that there are more people who like to keep up with me this way than I sometimes remember.  So I’ll attempt to make some sense of all the things that have been rattling around in my head these days.

First off, some news.  Most of you know, but that’s ok.  I’m moving back to Goshen.  Mike and I have decided it will be best for us to start out married life there.  I applied for a job as an admission counselor at the college.  I still need to get all of my letters of reference in, but other than that I’m just waiting for them to get back to me.  We’re interviewing for a replacement with the kids.  So far we have found one candidate that we like, but are going to do a couple more interviews to give us some options.  I think we’ll probably hire in the next week or so.  At this rate I’ll probably move back in the first few weeks of March sometime.  Possibly the last weekend of February.

I had been struggling with the decision to stay in Evanston vs. going back to Goshen for several months, but two events over Christmas break played a large role in changing my mind.  The first was a game night with a few of Mike and my friends.  The key here is that last phrase- Mike AND my friends- not Mike’s friends, not my friends, but our friends.  We have mutual friends in Goshen, something that would be completely lacking in Evanston.  The second was Christmas eve with my family we went around and talked about something that had happened this last year that was a high point, and all of my sister’s kids mentioned sports that they were involved in, and I realized that I was really sad to be missing out on all of those events.  Being around both our families is a wonderful opportunity.

I’m really excited about the transition and some of the wonderful things that moving to Goshen means in my life.  I auditioned for several shows at New World last weekend including the musical Urinetown which would be a blast to be part of.  I’m really excited about attending Assembly again and plugging back into a small group.  But I’m also so very sad to be leaving the babies and my girlfriends.  I don’t have an really close friends in Goshen.  I have alot of friends there, don’t get me wrong, but none of those relationships hold a candle to what I have with Abby, Becca and Jess.  I will miss them intensely.  I’ve put myself on the fast track to returning to Goshen, but now that it’s actually happening I’m feeling emotionally unprepared for the transition.  Hopefully that changes some as things fall into place with a job and a place to live in Goshen, and as the reality of what’s happening settles in my gut a bit.  Let’s just say I’ve been dealing with alot of anxious energy in the last few days.

Also, I hate waiting for things… like hearing from the college about my application.

Oh and in the last two days I have purchased several things in quantities of 300.  Why does buying stuff for the wedding make me so nervous?




2 responses

23 01 2008
bindi nestor

best wishes to you. Changes are stressful. But it sounds as though you have weighed it up and are heading for a bright future. You will always be close to your girlfriends. Perhaps you could factor in the odd girls weekend away somewhere every so often.

It remeinds me of how I felt when I left my workplace to have children. I worked with my close friends. Firstly, the baby was a new delight, then I met lots of other mums and made more close friends. However, amongst it all I have always been close to those work friends. One of them left and moved to Sydney (things change even if you stay the same), yet sixteen years later we are still close. All four of us meet for weekends away in Sydney. The three of us still in Melbourne keep in touch and get together every so often. We chat on the phone now and again. Obviously not as often as when we worked together but they are there and we are still close. (Friendship bonds survive separation).

23 01 2008

It’s also worth remembering that your girl friends in Evanston still have ties to Goshen, and will find reasons to visit the area on the occasions you’re not able to head up to Evanston for a get together. Don’t worry. I won’t be offended when you need to take off for a weekend every so often.

I’m excited about the decision to stay in Goshen, too, and I think our future is going to be a bright one indeed. I don’t see how admissions could keep from hiring you, and we’ll have a sweet place to host more of those game nights with good company.

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